Akashic Records & Aligning With Your Purpose In Midlife
Sarah Milken 00:04
Hey peeps, welcome to the flexible neurotic podcast. I'm your host Dr. Sarah Milken. Yeah, you heard that right. I'm a real PhD doctor. Long, long ago like last fucking year. I was sitting in the midlife punk wandering. Was this it for me? That day I realized I needed to get off my ass and start my midlife remix. I dusted off my PhD wipe the menopause, sweat off my forehead, grabbed my golden shovel and started digging deep to all my midlife bitches. It's not just love coffee and hormones that get you through your midlife remix. It's action steps. Let's do this. Hi, peeps. It's me again, Dr. Sarah Milken, the flexible neurotic with a new minisode of the flexible neurotic podcast. While I was in Hawaii a couple of weeks ago, I did a zoom session with Kimber Tiernan to reread an open my Akashic records. I did a full blown episode with Kimber over a year ago, you should go back and listen to it if you haven't, it's so good. And it really gets into what are the Akashic records and how do they even fucking work? I thought it would be a good exercise to do this again with Canberra the week before my first live event, the midlife baby shower experience. If you've been following me for a while, you will know that I've been getting more into the woowoo in my mid life. REMAX Instagram husband is like what the fuck is happening here but he's going with it. Kimber is an intuitive healer who may see your angels guides inner child and or your Divine Self. She works with the Akashic records and Reiki what does all this even mean? One of her clients says that she is a powerful healer, but that her superpower is teaching you how to heal yourself and others. She leads her own healing circles under her platform called the divine alchemy Academy. In our chat while I was in Hawaii, we did sprinkle some divine dust and our inner woowoo on the lawn in Hawaii and chat about my divine records to see what was in the hopper for me and my platform. She's not a psychic, it's different. She helps you access your spirit guides to see how they can help us dive into ourselves and help the midlife journey that we're all on. Kimber says that everything in this universe vibrates. And in order to live the life you want, you must be a vibrational match to the dream, now is the time to become aligned with your divine self. In my research for my original podcast with Kimber I found another Akashic expert that she knows, named Linda Howe, who explained that the Akashic records are like a Google search for the soul. You're pulling out vivid images of past lives, a library to your past life experiences. So reading the Akashic records is like tapping into the intuition that comes from our souls history. Akashic doesn't predict the future it shows you your highest path. Even if you don't get a reading from someone like a Kimber, we can get these hits from our energy line that give us that deja vu feeling of like, I've been there before, or this is really familiar. We can get answers to questions like, What am I here to do in this life? Do the guides have anything to show me? I just had my first ever live event like I said, the midlife baby shower experience. Oh my god, I can't even believe I'm saying that out loud. It already happened. And it was fucking amazing and magical and more than I could have ever imagined. For myself and all the women who came, we access my records pre live event. So this reading helped assure me that I was on the right path. Kimber assured me that this is all part of my life's mission, part of my calling, and basically gave me all the confidence I already had deep down inside, but I had to keep moving it forward, and I'm so glad I did. There is so much more about the Akashic records if you want to go back and listen to episode 36 And it's the Akashic records for creating the midlife you want. Okay, peeps, before we start this episode, I have a really exciting quick update. There are new dates for the midlife baby shower experience posted. You can find them at www the flexible neurotic.com. There's a banner across the top of my website that says click here and it will take you to all the possible upcoming dates. Click on all the dates that apply to you. Or you can go to my Instagram at the flexible neurotic and it's the top button that's blinking it's pink at the top of my link tree. So if you're one of the 408 80 women that individually DM me to tell me that you could not come on the June 24 date, but you wanted to be promised that I would definitely update you on the upcoming dates, here is me fulfilling on the promise. And if you weren't one of the 480 of course, you're welcome to join in the fun, you guys. It was the most magical, amazing experience ever more than any of us could have ever imagined. So if you're a woman who is ready to invest in herself, and ready to make the midlife baby shower, experience her own, then this is the time sign up for the date DM me if you have any questions. So listen here for my amazing conversation with Kimber.
Kimber Tiernan 05:47
And I could just feel the tingling of your guide, stepping in, it was so powerful to I was smiling. I was like, Whoa, they're really present. So I love that so much. Okay, well, I'll explain how the records looked because they were a little different. The first I don't know, I can't remember who your guides were before. But Archangel Michael is the main one, he just came in with his big wings and shield and sword and he's protecting you and guiding you and bringing it in. But then so much goddess came in energy came in like this, Sophia that she kina energy just moving through, that you're stepping into a bigger part of your mission right now. But you've got so much help and so much support and so much love in this elevation. And actually with the the event that you're doing, while it's just one circular event, what it's doing, it's taking you from right here, which is like your part of your mission here, but it's elevating you to a slightly higher dimension. It's like a nodal point. It's like a portal to something else. And just there like, don't think too much about what something else is or how that's going to come to fruition. But just know that this is a divine appointment. It was a download that came out of nowhere. It's just like, Oh, I'm doing this. And now you're like, I don't know why I'm doing this. And the guides are like because it was a divine appointment. And it's taking your mission to a different, more beautiful, even organic space. It's elevating it to something else, not entirely, but it's just opening like a flower into like another iteration of what it's going to be, if that makes sense. You've got a lot of help, a lot of help. There's so much so many guides that are just anchoring in because what they were showing is what you're doing right now is helping anchor heaven on earth through the back door of reaching midlife women and awakening them to their power and awaken them to their truth because that's where a lot of the sacred energies held and the wisdom and you're you're like popcorn, lighting people up with the different things. And like you're just being 100% yourself, but you're actually a sacred healer, if that makes sense. And you're bringing this energy. So cool.
Sarah Milken 08:06
Sacred yeller, Sara.
Kimber Tiernan 08:08
I know, and it's like just you being because I always say like people like what am I supposed to do? And I'm like, your one job is to be 100% yourself, and your being 100% yourself, which is emitting those light codes. And then you're giving other people platforms to speak their truth, which then ripples out so other people start speaking their truth. And it's like this ripple effect that's happening in a really cool way. But you're just being yourself. And so it's your own. It's like a backdoor way of being a healer, if that makes sense. It's like, just you don't have to do this or like, do what I'm doing. But there's another roundabout way where you're hitting a whole different demographic with truth and love and compassion and, and humor. That's waking people up, which is super cool.
Sarah Milken 08:54
I know. It's kind of it's interesting, because sometimes I'm like, you know, everyone who most people who do new things are like, impostor syndrome, like who am I to do this show? I think I am. I don't have anything like crazy or profound to say, but I don't know, I've sort of found in this process. Like you said that, like me just showing up as me and being like, yeah, my eyes are dripping diner, her fucking charting or whatever. It's like, it's so different, or no one else is saying those same things. But I guess there's something about the energy. I don't know if it's like self deprecating humor, or whatever. But like you said, just literally showing up as me. Like I am no different online than I am in my everyday life. And they think maybe that sort of shows through a little bit. It does
Kimber Tiernan 09:50
show through us the authenticity and it's you being new and just unabashedly unashamedly, no filter, and it's giving other people permission to do the same. The ones that resonate with it are like, Oh my god, I really resonate with that. And I want to be more authentically me too, because there's so I mean, you know, this, there's so much shame in aging, there's so much shame and all of this stuff, and you're just like, ripping off the shame. And just like, This is what it is, just is what it is.
Sarah Milken 10:18
I also think it's interesting, because I know a lot of people talk about, like, hate, like getting like, hate trolling, you know, weird comments, and I have to be honest, like, I should knock on wood when I say this, but I feel like I don't get that. Get that because I feel like I'm either your messenger or, or I'm not. And like, I don't care if 200 people on follow me, or 200 people follow me. It's like, I'm here. This is what I'm doing. And if you like one, I had one comment that was like, I love your podcast, but could you not use bad language? And I was like, okay, but that is my podcast. And that is me. So if I'm not your person, then you shouldn't be listening to my
Kimber Tiernan 11:08
say, yeah, 100%
Sarah Milken 11:10
Yeah, and it's not like, fuck, everyone is just like, there's certain people that appeal to you, and certain people who don't appeal to you. And like, that's the beauty of being in this journey is you kind of figure out like, who your people are? And like, who on Instagram or who in real life? Like, do you seek out their energy? Like, does someone make you feel ill? Or to somebody, like, make you laugh and feel like, Oh, I could do that, too? I, of course, have my own versions of that, too.
Kimber Tiernan 11:44
Yeah, I always say if like, someone makes you feel expansive, they're for you, if they make you forget to tractive not for Yeah, and that's okay. An
Sarah Milken 11:51
interesting thing, though, with that comment is, which is something that I've been thinking about a lot lately that I have rarely talked about much about on my platform, but I will, is, there's so many moments where you don't know whether you're being spired by somebody, or you're being triggered by somebody
Kimber Tiernan 12:12
100%.
Sarah Milken 12:15
You know, like, I'm sure that I'm triggering for a lot of people. And I'm sure that I'm inspiring for a lot of people. And the same goes for me, when I see other women doing stuff. It's like, ah, like, I wish I was doing that. But it's also so hard to acknowledge that in such a way where you're like, Damn, that's great. I want to be doing that versus talking shit about it.
Kimber Tiernan 12:42
100%. And that's where you're more self aware. And you go in and like, is this a trigger? If the reaction is bigger than what you think it's going to be, if like, the reaction is bigger than the whatever's happening, you know, it's a trigger. And a trigger is always an indication of a past trauma. And so that's where you get to go in and undo that trigger, and then understand like, oh, that trigger is what's the thought that I'm thinking that makes me feel triggered. And the thought probably is, I'll never be able to do that. Or I wish I could do that. And then you get to work with your own self and be like, Oh, I have this thought that I have this belief that I'll never be able to be that big, or do that kind of thing. And then that's your job to unleash the trigger and heal the inner child, heal that shadow part of yourself. And any part of you that's feeling disconnected, you bring them back in and, and bring more love to that. And then release that shadow so that then you can step into your more power. I love the people that trigger me like that. I always look back and I'm like, Oh, why did I think that about that person? Oh, because there's a belief in me that I'll never be able to do that. And then go in and heal that part of you that inner child part or where you got shut down or where you think you're not good enough. And then, oh, I'm here to be like you like 100% myself, and whoever is going to find me is going to find me. And that's the way I work with my work too. It's like whoever is going to find me is gonna find me. And I'm not for everybody, which is fine.
Sarah Milken 14:14
When Yeah, that's a very like big girl big pants, big underwear, kind of, you know, the girl feeling like, Okay, I'm old enough now, where I can just accept the fact that I can't be her. I can't be her. I can't be her. But maybe I think I want to be her. But in fact, I really just want to be me. And I think sometimes we've been somebody else for so long or serving other people for so long that we don't even know who meat even is anymore. Right? And I think that that has been this like journey for me and I think a lot of people who listen to my podcast is it's like, Who the fuck am I? Like I've been slotted into all these roles. was for so long. And now like my son's leaving for college I haven't, I'll have one more kid at home. And my role as a parent has changed so much. Like I used to be like, supervisor, helicopter mom. And now I'm becoming sort of just like this consultant mom on the side. Just, I don't know. And I, I'm like, Am I okay with that, but not that I have a choice about it. But how do I feel about that? And then that changes. It feels like it's changing who I am as a person, whether maybe it's not I it's just I haven't known who I am without being mom role for so long.
Kimber Tiernan 15:40
Oh, for sure. For sure. Well, I love what they're showing guides speaking to Yeah. And they're showing like the path of life of like, you've got these different iterations of yourself, and you go down this path, and then you become a different person to navigate this part of the path, then you become a different person navigate this part. And now you're in this space of transition again, and you're navigating, you're becoming more of yourself, but a different iteration than the one that raised the kids and the more hands on, which is even more of yourself, because you've got that the sovereignty without kids hanging on you. And now there's some silence where you get to go in and like, who really am I as a soul, who really am I like, why am I here on Earth, without being helicopter mom, and without being this and that, that everyone expects you to be? Which can cause a little disruption in the field where you're like, who actually am I, which is a greater call, or something like as a greater call from the Divine, to really know who you as are as cosmic consciousness, and why you came on this planet, at this time and space in this reality in an even bigger way, which is really cool. I love that.
Sarah Milken 16:53
And what are the guides saying about? Oh, no, like, there's so many new everything. This whole experience has been new for the past two and a half years. But like, for me, every day, at least almost every day, there's like something new but like, I've never asked charge people money before, in for anything. And so for me, like having this event and charging people money, I'm like, How do I do that? Like, how does that makes me feel so weird. Like, I've been giving my contents out for free for two and a half years. And now I'm saying like, Hey, this is an exchange now, not for everything, but just for certain things. And like, that just feels so hard.
Kimber Tiernan 17:37
Yeah, well, that's the biggest thing when you're on this path is figuring out that energy exchange and knowing with anything, there has to be an energy exchange, or that's when you get burned out. That's when you get resentful. That's when you get burned out. And so really tuning in like, oh, there has people make the most shifts, the more energy exchange there is. And all money's just as you knows energy, it's just our agreed upon collective of this is way we're going to honor our exchange here, in certain ways, or like in a marriage, you honor in different ways than a parent child, you honor that exchange in different ways. But if the energy exchange isn't right, then one of us is going to feel resentful. And when you've got a big audience the way you do, and you're creating so much good content, and you're helping people so much, this is the next part of the journey of like, Oh, I am going to allow myself to have an energy exchange and be paid for my services, because then it's also me bringing energy back into myself to replenish. So then I have more energy to go out and give more. And it doesn't even have to be like, you're fine, money wise. But even having that energy exchange is going to like elevate your excitement. And you're moving because people are honoring your gifts. It's like bringing something to the table, because you've been giving it away so much. It's like, oh, now they're bringing a gift to you and honoring all the work you've done, which in turn, every person that comes to your events are going to elevate because they've invested in themselves. They've invested in the connections of the other women that are going to be there. And they've invested in this co creation, which is going to elevate all of you, if that makes sense.
Sarah Milken 19:15
No, it does. I mean, I have a friend who's a very successful podcaster. And we talked about it all the time. And she's like Sarah, people want to invest in themselves. They may not know it right this second. But when you pay for something, there's a much higher chance that you're going to commit to it and have some kind of transformative 100% situation or feeling and like for this live baby shower thing that I'm doing at my house, like if I charge people $25 They probably wouldn't show up. They wouldn't. They wouldn't because it's like, oh, I can skip that. Oh, that doesn't mean that much to me. But then when you charge x, it's like, okay, well, maybe you don't have to 100 People coming, maybe you have 1218 20, whatever. But those are people who really want to talk and be there. Yeah. And they're making it their business to be there. And look, everyone has different financial situations and all that, which of course, you have to take into consideration by. There are so many things like in my life, like hiring as you know, Carrie rose like life coaches, like things that are transformative typically costs money. Mm hmm. Totally, you know, unless you're talking about like meditation or things that you do on your own. Yeah, you know, at home or whatever. But things that are bigger like that, just do
Kimber Tiernan 20:41
willing to show up, you have to make that commitment to show up to like, Carrie, if she were really cheap, it would be like, well, I'll miss the session. It's not that big of a deal. And I'm not going to put in the homework, because it's like, whatever. And I Yeah, yeah, I don't charge a lot like that. Because I have a lot of star seeds and like a lot of a younger people. So I keep it affordable. Yeah, but
Sarah Milken 21:04
you right, but your private sessions are? Yeah,
Kimber Tiernan 21:07
yeah. Yeah, my private sessions are expensive. But my classes I try to keep affordable. But I usually do some kind of scale, so that you can do this, or you can do this. But I've noticed through my journey, the more I tardes, the more they get out of it. And I realized that a long time ago, because I used to be donation based and I started watching, when people didn't give much, they didn't get out much. And then when they gave more, they got more,
Sarah Milken 21:32
is there something I could be doing better, or something I could be doing differently.
Kimber Tiernan 21:37
Now this was a great initiation. And it actually they're showing, I don't know how much it is, but they're showing the price point kept it at a really good amount of people. So that it's not too overwhelming that you don't have two or 300 people where you're trying to navigate all of that it kept it in a smaller container where you can navigate it and handle and understand where you're learning, you will do more in person events, I can tell you that this isn't a one off, but it's going to look different.
Sarah Milken 22:08
Really one
Kimber Tiernan 22:10
because you're gonna like it, I think you're gonna like the energy, it just feels like oh, when you're in the space of these, like powerful women exchanging energy and exchanging ideas, that it's elevating the whole community. And you're like, I feel like there's going to be a charge or like, I want to do this again. And but in a different way, because it does feel a little bit more expansive next time. So you did a really good job, you charged enough to keep the container smaller, and then you're going to be able to expand from that space, but just filling in what feels good, like how many people they want and then being specific. Okay, next time I want to do 50 People or next time I want to do 100 people and how does that look. But there is an element of bringing people together because you're creating alliances and you're creating community, which is really amazing. Like I just see different women coming together and really cool.
Sarah Milken 23:06
Way I know it is very cool, because I talked about this idea of like the midlife table. And it's not necessarily who your weekend besties are, or the people that that you talk to every day. I mean, they can be. But it's also just sort of curating a group of women, whether it's on Instagram, or tax or whatever. And in real life, that you just feel energized after talking to them and you feel connected, and they don't have to be your carpool buddies or your dinner buddies on Friday night, or your SoulCycle or whatever. But just people that are in your energy field doing cool shit, or thinking about things, perhaps a little bit differently than you you don't want everyone at your midlife table to be exactly the same as you Oh, for sure. That would be really boring. Really this event like there was a woman coming from the UK. There's three women coming from Texas to from San Francisco, you know, like, yeah, and the best part about the whole thing, campers, I don't even know that people.
24:16
That's so cool.
Sarah Milken 24:17
It's not like people that I went to college where or I went to high school with or who live in LA, it's all people who found me, like the energy vibe to that and you're like, oh, I want to feel that I'm gonna reach out to her. I want to be a part of this. And that's what I love is that it's not like a sorority where like three girls are coming together. Like everyone is random.
Kimber Tiernan 24:44
I love that. Well, I can tell you my experience like through your podcasts like Jackie from found me through your podcast, and she's like, she's such a cheerleader, and she's the best And then it's so funny because I was talking to my friend, Carrie Ann, and she was like, oh, Tammy and all those people are taking this spermidine They heard on the flexible, neurotic, and I was like, Oh, I hadn't even heard the podcast. I'm like, I'm in. I'm ordering it. I literally ordered it right there. And then she booked a session with me the other day. And I was like,
Sarah Milken 25:22
Oh, by it's not like a who's who kind of group. It's literally women who just want to be in good energy. Nobody's like asking for the other people there. And does this person know that person? Anyone famous coming? And that's part of the reason why like, I didn't even bring in celebrities or other like famous people to talk because I was like, that's not what this is about. Celebrities I live in LA. Yeah. I mean, like, when that's not what this is about. This is about me. It's about the women who are coming and just all being together. And obviously, it's hitting a very small number of people. But I feel like everything has to start small,
Kimber Tiernan 26:09
for sure. Oh, 100%. And it's better when it starts small, because then you're not overwhelmed. And then you're like, Okay, this is great. And then you can grow from there. And the mic guys always
Sarah Milken 26:19
have to ship and needed to be ordered. Believe me, I'm like, did I work for coffee mugs? Like, that was me at like, 6am. I'm like, Wait, should I Amazon them? Or is that like a rental company item? I mean, like, these are the things that are floating through my head. And then part of me is like, Okay, what's the worst that could happen? Like, I take 17 logs out of the out of the cabinet? And they don't all match. Yeah, no, but
Sarah Milken 26:47
it's just funny. Like all the little things that we obsess about,
Kimber Tiernan 26:50
it's so funny, and no one notices, and no one cares.
Sarah Milken 26:55
Now, when you ask the guides, what they're saying about, like the money piece, because that was really hard for me. And like, how am I gonna go forward with this? And what does that look like?
Kimber Tiernan 27:13
Okay, so first of all, the money part is a very important component for this for you to get paid for what you do, and the hours you get put in and all the back end stuff you do as well, that it's like, it's time for that energy exchange. There's a guilt and a shame. That's like sitting right on your heart of actually accepting money because you're like, I have enough I don't need more, and I'm fine. And there's this like, pushing it away, if that makes sense. And yeah, and they're like, this is about you accepting and you receiving because you have also been in mom mode for a really long time. And it's like it's this is a thankless task where you give and give and give, and you don't get it back. Now this is time, right? You are also part of, because you work really well with the masculine, let's get it done. Let's do that energy. And like, what do we need to do do and this is about you bringing in the component of the feminine aspect of receiving, and there's the feminine is magnetic, she's receptive, she's allowing, and the more you allow yourself to be paid financially, or however else it wants to come in. But it gives other people permission to do the same as well. And the more you allow, and the more you receive you alchemize that energy within you, and then you can take that money and maybe not absorb it in all the phases, but do something to like invest in the podcast invest in like the next part of the mission where you're, you're giving back and you're creating this loop of the goddess of energy that elevates it even more. And they're saying the more you do things like that, the more elevated it will get. Because a lot of this is about your ability to receive and your ability to be in your divine feminine and allow people to acknowledge you and allow people to give to you and they want to give to you, they want to do this. And so you like letting go of the guilt and the shame about it. And the guilt and shame you have about finances or money or that you have more than other people. This is your journey and letting go of the guilt and shame and really integrating and really absorbing like the more you have, the better you can do for the world. And not feeling guilt and shame about it and that we're all inherently abundance and then you can hold that energy of we're all abundant and we are all have connection to divine consciousness and divine consciousness is inherently abundant. There's a an abundance of stars in the side drops of water in the oceans grains of sand on the beach leaves on the trees. And money is just one component of that. Your families figured that out and now you're here to even bring it into a bigger audience of look. Women should be paid for what they do. They should have an energy exchange. It's time to let go of the guilt and the shame of Receiving for what we do. And then the more you receive, the more you give permission to the people in your audience to receive for what they do as well, which is it's a hard one like, I've had it, I still struggle with that like that, do I raise my prices? Or do I not like that? It's, it's hard. It's really hard. It's not easy. It's really hard. And there's always going to be some kind of judgment of people like, why is she charging money? And how come she charges so much. And then it's like, it's our job to hold the resonance of what the value is. And like, what is the value of this event are what is the value of this event and really holding it and like we talked about before, the more people invest, the more they get out of it. And so it's just going to be alchemy in your heart and receiving like the Goddess. And then I don't know, if I told you that my money component what the guides told me is like, I pushed money away, because I think it was dirty, and trafficking and drugs and all the nefarious things and they were like you push money away. But your job is to learn to accept it and allow it and then alchemize it in the heart to love. And so like now I literally so you can do this with your when they pay you. Like say you pay me today, I see the Venmo come through a literally put it in my heart and blast and I go may this come back to you 1000 folds. So I'm giving the energy back to you. And then when I spend money, I spend it to the Goddess, I spend it to the divine. I'm like, Oh, I'll buy local, I'll buy this or that and tip well and do things like that, where I feel really nourishing and my giving as well. And keep it that beautiful energy. And they're saying that spreads that light and optimizes the money from the dark to the light and spreads it even more of what we're doing on this earth to bring in more compassionate more light, if that makes sense.
Sarah Milken 31:50
Yeah. And I feel like my my focus this past the past few weeks has been on the money piece just because that's the newest piece totally like his journey for me. That and also just like doing a live event and bringing people into my home. And you know, somebody's like, oh my god, I can't believe you're doing in your house. You're such like a private person, you know, in general. And I'm like, I know, but doing in a hotel just didn't feel like it was me. And I really just felt that I needed this experience to feel as authentic as possible in a hotel room, or like a banquet room. Just didn't feel like that for me.
Kimber Tiernan 32:33
Yeah. No, it's funny, I got the chills when you said that I got this blast of light of one your house wants this. It wants this divine feminine goddess gathering to help the nodal point on the grid plane on earth that it's actually elevating the earth plane where you are, it's elevating the land in the space. And your house loves this. It's like when I tuned into your home, it's like yes, like, like utilize the yard utilize the like all that I have to give, which feels so good. And it feels so authentic. And bright and open and sunny. It feels good. Like when and then when you go into the hotel that feels dank and dark. And like just last
Sarah Milken 33:16
mix. No, it's funny. It's just It just felt very natural for me. And you know, what's interesting is I thought my husband was going to be like spa? No, no fucking way. And he actually didn't fight me on it, which I thought was kind of interesting. Yeah, like literally not a word. And he's the kind of person who would be like, there's not even a possibility of that happening. And I think that that. I don't know, I think my kids and my husband are, I don't know, I think they're gonna be getting there. We're like, What the fuck is she doing? What's happening? We're going to pretend to be supportive, and it just feels really weird. But now I think they sort of did it in a weird way.
Kimber Tiernan 34:00
Well, I feel that and I feel they finally see it. Like you saw the vision and the beginning kind of you're like, I don't know what this is. But you saw it more than them. And they're like, oh, what's mom doing? This is so not what we're used to from her. She's doing something so different. Like, why isn't she paying attention to me, and you start doing and they could see the growth and the expansion and what you're doing, it's starting to really make sense and really giving you a purpose and helping your joy and helping your happiness and your like, people need a purpose in life. People need purpose. Outside of being a mom outside of being the household thing. You really need a purpose. And that's what the happiest people I see that people are like on a mission have a purpose. They know what they're doing. And that's where you you're coming into like you're the glory of Lou, you're doing what you're here to do and your family starting to see that and they're getting it and it started I can feel even your husband's mind is starting to click Like, Oh, I get what she's doing.
Sarah Milken 35:04
It's like you're finally charging money. I'm like, Oh my god. He's a business guy. He gets it. He's like, Sarah, everything's gonna change 100 You're saving, like we said before, it's just hard to kind of, you know, kind of switched your mindset, because it wasn't like I started this with that plan. I just started, you know, and with a podcast, you don't charge money. Right? Right. Most of the time. Yeah, it's not like a subscription or whatever. I mean, I guess some people do, but at the beginning, especially you don't so it just feels it just feels off. But now I'm sort of like, okay, I get it. I get what this is supposed to be. I don't know if I can do it all day long and sideways. But I'm practicing. And I think that that's part of what I'm preaching, for lack of a better term in my podcast, and all my Instagram is like, personal growth comes from feeling really uncomfortable.
36:01
100%
Sarah Milken 36:05
I don't know. I mean, I don't know what my guides think about my growth journey. And whether I'm strapped like strangling my central nervous system, but
Kimber Tiernan 36:17
maybe because you're in a way that your nervous system actually feels a lot better. You feel so nice and calm and like your adrenals are calm and it feels so nice. Let me just check on like the overall Yeah, you're doing great. They actually love the growth and the expansion just remember to pray it. Just remember to take a beat. Just remember the step out of a situation was feeling too intense and you start getting myopic about things just step out, take some deep breaths, shake out the energy and then reset and then you can go back in and but they love the growth and the expansion and knowing that you're not doing it by yourself like you are being held. You are being taken that this event How did it come about? Because it feels like it was just a download? It feels like it was just like it dropped in the I did dropped in and then took a life of itself. I'm sure you did work on it. But
Sarah Milken 37:17
no, as I say it really sort of did is I put a post up on Instagram that said something like, let's have a midlife baby shower, but not celebrate our kids and celebrate taking care of ourselves. And like 5000 people liked the post. My posts don't get that many likes normally. And like 500 people commented, and everybody's like, Oh man, I'm in and oh my god, oh my god. And then I was like, Wait, should I be like maybe? Sure. Oh, yeah, I should. And then I was like, okay, but Jake's graduating from high school, and then they're both going on this different Europe trips. And then we have to drop him off in college. Like, how the fuck am I going to do an event and the minutes and then my husband was like, and we're going to Hawaii and I know the timing is sucks but okay. And I was just like, You know what, I'm just gonna do it. And I know summers tricky and nobody can do this state or that they so I'm going to do this day and whoever can come can come and whoever can't, you know, there'll be things in the future. And I just did it. I didn't think that much about it. I just was like, oh my god, this is so hard. Oh my god, I hate how I heard this feels. But I'm just gonna push through and not look back.
Kimber Tiernan 38:32
I love that. Yeah, it feels like a direct download from your guides, like, Okay, you're gonna do this, this is the next step to elevate you. This is the next iteration of where you're going. I love and they the guides love that you push through and the hard things and you kept doing it even when you wanted to back out and wanted to quit
Sarah Milken 38:50
many times where I was like, Okay, we're going to Hawaii now. So I can cancel the event. I can just tell everyone that I'm going on a last minute family trip and I can't do it. And I was like, Can I really do that? And obviously I couldn't have I just, I just thought you know what if I don't do this, there's always going to be something that that took three. Yeah, it doesn't mean that I'm like just this clear force wrecking ball that can just go and go, but it just felt right. It's just sometimes even when things feel right or so really hard. They're
Kimber Tiernan 39:24
they're very hard. They're very hard. But then once you do it once it gets so much easier. And once now you've done this now you've broken that the water the waters broke, and now it's like okay, now it's gonna be so much easier the next time. And just like even with my classes like and or like you can think of it like the first time you did the podcast, the first episode, you're like, What am I saying? What am I doing? This is weird. And now it's just so organic and natural that it doesn't even like you can turn it on and it's fine and you do it and it's seems like just so normal. And that's what this is. It's gonna be the more things that you do like that, you're gonna start feeling more normal. And it's just yeah, you're stretching your comfort zone, which is great because that is the growth. And I can tell you, it's gonna be a success, it's going to be very exciting it, there's so much light around it, it's just like, it's, it looks golden light, like it, there's just all this golden light about it. So, one, your guides are saying, just relax. And now you're, you're almost to the point where you can just relax and allow whatever's going to happen happen and just show up with the light and the love that you are. And the people that are coming are amazing. I can feel the energy and that everyone's bringing their own essence and their own excitement for it, which is really great. I love that.
Sarah Milken 40:41
I mean, I don't know what's funny is I don't even follow like everybody's Instagrams or whatever. And like, I pretty much know what anyone looks like. Wow. Do you have an insane? Yeah, literally, like, this tiny little face on Instagram. And I'm like, okay, whatever. Like, I don't even I don't want any preconceived notions I don't want I just it's like everyone just gonna show up and like, meet for the first time. And I don't know, that just feels so cool. Oh, cool. There's so much in life where we sort of know what the expectations are the stereotypes or it's going to be these kind of people this kind of event. Yeah, but because it's not like a primarily Los Angeles based event. And it's people from everywhere. I just feel like invites in this kind of like, cross pollination of energy.
41:28
I love that.
Sarah Milken 41:30
I love that. And that feels that feels good to me, because we all know what our comfort zone is and what our savings are. But we don't know what our stretch points are. Yeah,
41:42
I love that so much, you know.
Sarah Milken 41:43
And then in the midst of all this, I'm like, how am I going to help my son with the recall? It should August like, oh, how is that going to pan out for me?
Kimber Tiernan 41:54
Where did he decide to go?
Sarah Milken 41:57
He's going to University of Pennsylvania Wharton undergrad school, the business school. Amazing. Wow,
Kimber Tiernan 42:04
I know. That's where you guys went. Right? Have you wanted
Sarah Milken 42:06
to go? Yeah, but I think at the same time, you know, being a parent and feeling like, Okay, I did good. Like he's a really good quality person. Like I feel satisfied with that. But also at the same time, very soul crushing, crushed
42:26
that he's late. Yeah, that's so hard. So crash.
Kimber Tiernan 42:31
That's just you guys have such a beautiful soul connection to like, there's just like this deep love.
Sarah Milken 42:38
I got in the ocean with him. And what was all of us and he knows I don't do lotions, or wet or anything wet. Or he knew that I only got into the pocket ocean for him. You know, me like that was new. And it was funny because they didn't say anything. And two minutes later, I turned around and he was walking up to the beach chair. And I was like, that's weird. What is he doing? He came back with his phone to take pictures. And I was like, this kid knows what a good day head I know, like, pictures and selfies and all the stuff. And it was like you just knew that he knew. And then when we were getting out, it was like my husband, daughter. We're already at the chairs and I'm like fuck and struggling against like the little peanut tide, you know, trying to get my midlife itself out of the ocean. And he was like the one who turned around to be like, issue, okay, and he's like, are you okay? I'm like, Yeah, I'm just trying to get my ass out of the water. And he goes, you know, Mom, it's okay here but you never turn your back to the ocean. And I was like, well said. Well said why I just felt so like hardest fall like wow.
Kimber Tiernan 43:59
Yeah, you did good. You did good. That's amazing. Amazing. Oh,
Sarah Milken 44:03
my my daughter's amazing too. But she's, you know, she's tougher. She's a girl. She's me. Totally. Every fucking person in a run for their money. I mean, I'm 48 and I'm still such a bitch. My parents. I'm like, really? That's all you got, like birdie told me six times today.
Kimber Tiernan 44:26
Oh, my girls are harder. Like, my daughter is my best friend but I'll start telling you sources like fast forward
Sarah Milken 44:34
as far as taking a role somewhere to be like really? Yep,
Kimber Tiernan 44:39
I get that too. It's like key like moving along.
Sarah Milken 44:43
She's like short version. I'm like, fuck you. Bye bye. So what are the guides say about how I'm going to function with one kid and not the other and will I survive teenage girl energy for sure. Yes,
Kimber Tiernan 44:57
you're gonna do actually okay. Well with your son being gone, strangely enough, because you've prepared yourself in the last couple of years, you've actually gone through it in your head so much that you prepare. Makes sense. It's like, what's this gonna be like? What am I going to do? It actually feels next logical step. Yeah, well, you cry a little bit, of course, but it doesn't feel devastating the way it would have been two years ago, because you've like, led yourself up to this, and even the process of going to look for schools. It prepared you emotionally, where now it's just feels like it's exciting when he comes home. And it's exciting when you get to go see him. And there's like this element of, it's different. But it's exciting because it's even more integrated. And it's even more purposeful, like they're showing holidays. It's like, oh, it's purposeful. I've got my baby here, and I've got this energy, where we get four days with just us and there's more of a connection, kinda like how you guys are doing this. It's like, when you guys do come together, it's very integrated, and very purposeful, which Phil, I just feel your heart filling up when he does come home for vacation, or you guys go to see him for some kind of homecoming or game or something. And it's like, it feels really, it actually feels good. It's not as traumatic as I would have said a year ago, if that makes sense. I hope so. Yeah. And then, of course, you're gonna be like, where's the end? It's gonna take a minute where you don't like want to call his name and do because I can see you're like, Oh, Jake, and it's like, Oh, shit. No, he's not
Sarah Milken 46:34
funny, because I told him I go, you know, when you be, we might switch your room and marrons route because you have a better row. And he goes, No, you're not. And I go, yeah. And he goes, but that's like, my space. Like, I know, that's my space. And I will always need my space. And I was like, I'm just fucking with you. You're working on changing. But it was just funny that he actually even care.
Kimber Tiernan 46:54
Yeah, he cares. I can tell it, he'll come home enough. He loves his home. He loves his family. I can even see like, Oh, you've got three days off. He's gonna come home. It's kind of great.
Sarah Milken 47:05
Last question. Yeah. What's next for me?
Kimber Tiernan 47:10
more growth, more events. I know, you're like this is a one and done. But I see next year, you're doing a bigger event where there are like tables, you do bring in maybe a couple of celebrity types, not celebrities, but like speakers or talkers, where you're bringing a more purpose, not purposeful, but a more formulated event together, if that makes sense. Yeah. And since
Sarah Milken 47:36
I just didn't, I feel like I had been there's so many menopause workshops and conferences that I didn't want this to be that I wanted this to be about the person.
Kimber Tiernan 47:48
Oh, yeah. Yeah, I don't feel like it's a menopause thing, either. I think it's about finding your purpose. I think it's about like, what your whole thing is reinventing yourself and like, now, who are you in this space? It feels really good. It'll all come to fruition. It's interesting. I also see, I don't know if you've done it yet or not. But I see you going on other people's podcasts?
Sarah Milken 48:10
Yeah, I've done I've probably done about six.
Kimber Tiernan 48:13
Okay, because I see bigger ones, like maybe someone bigger, like invite you on because I feel your audience expanding to in different avenues. It's like not just your podcast, I see like, Oh, you're doing this, which brings a bigger audience. And then you go do this, which brings a bigger audience. So it's just more growth and expansion. And so they're having fun with it and keep doing what you're doing. You know exactly what you're doing. Even though it might, yeah, they're like, even though it might not feel like you know what you're doing, you do know what you're doing your, your instincts are really good. And so keep following those instincts and keep following those downloads and those hits. It's like, oh, maybe I want to do this and follow that energy. And then like, maybe I want to do this, follow that energy. And then just keep expanding so hard
Sarah Milken 48:57
to really move yourself away from a, like performance and outcome based perspective or model, tow it out. It's like, if you can't guarantee that 100 People are gonna sign up for my course than I don't want to do it. You know what I mean? That kind of mentality because a lot of us are so accustomed to that with school, college business, whatever. But I feel like in this space and time in our lives, it's less about outcome. And it's more about the journey and the curvy linear process. 1% come to terms with about when you're so used to the benchmarks, because the benchmarks feel easier. It's like, I lost 10 pounds. I've got, you know, a college degree I did x, but in this space, it's like, okay, well, what are you going to say, Oh, I made six new friends. I you know, I'm getting better at pickleball I started a podcast like it's just an Not as outcome base
Kimber Tiernan 50:02
Oh 100%. And that's that formula that they always say like in this part of your life, it's tuning in, what's your bliss? What do you what excites you follow it, no insistence outcome. And then no matter what happens, you maintain that positive perspective. That was exactly what was supposed to happen. And then again, follow your bliss. And that's the roundabout that we're on right now is fully tuning in. What excites me the most, oh, I want to do this midlife baby shower. Okay, no insistence on outcome. And no matter what happens, you maintain that positive perspective,
Sarah Milken 50:33
or can you ask die is what your passion is, or what your bliss is, they know.
Kimber Tiernan 50:41
Well, they your Higher Self speaks to and passion. And so it's one year and aligned with your higher self, and you're aligned with the truth of who you are not with what other people think you should be when you're in your own essence in your own heart. And that's part of the beautiful part of being human is finding that passion, understanding what your higher self is downloading, you have the truth of who you are. Because what they say is they don't love to tell you what your passion or your purpose is. Because it's like a chess game, you come here to Earth play chess game, if they told you the outcome of the chess game, there's no reason to play it. And so this is part of the chess game of like, what actually lights me up? Oh, and then you you explore different avenues you may not have explored, if they would have just told you. But they're things that bring in information or knowledge or wisdom that you wouldn't have gotten had you not gone down this random, what you thought was your bliss route. And maybe it didn't turn out to be totally your bliss. But you've gathered information on that path to harness in what more of what your passion what your bliss is. And you keep and it changes to because it always changes. And that's where I tune in. Oh, right now, I love teaching classes. I love teaching breathwork so much, but that'll change. And that and then that will change. And I'm writing a book. And it's like all these things change. But it's leading you to your ultimate timeline with these different energies. That makes sense, but it is about Yeah,
Sarah Milken 52:09
I think it's interesting, because a lot of women including me, like two and a half years ago, I was like, what, I don't know what that thing is, I don't know what it is. And that feels really hard. But what I found is, you know what, it's not 100%. And that's what you do now, because you can feel the yucky energy of like, Fuck, I really don't want to be doing that. Or I don't want to get out of bed today to do that. It doesn't necessarily lead you to exactly what you want to do. But it helps narrow the playing field a little bit. And I feel like we've come to this time in our lives where not everything's in the video. Hell yeah. Because things that are uncomfortable are not healthy. Yeah. There should be more healthy as than fuck notes.
Kimber Tiernan 52:57
100% 100%. Now, yeah. And then it's just a I think it's the exploration. That's the fun and getting to know yourself and getting to know who you are. And just the little things like the guide said, it's the big things like the midlife baby shower, it's the little things like, Oh, I feel like going to get a coffee at this coffee shop. It's all of them. It's like what actually excites me right now. And that's where you stay in the moment. And then you start following your bliss in the moment that brings you to the connections of people and random ideas like download while you're walking to the coffee shop, or whatever happens there. Like it's about staying in the moment and being so in tune with yourself, and not worrying so much about the big picture. The big picture will work itself out while you're doing it, if that makes sense.
Sarah Milken 53:45
No, it makes complete sense, I think. I mean, sometimes we're so focused on I mean, me too, like what are other people going to think and like wall just because I'm going into the best coffee shop and walking with my friend there and having the best time but like, what does that really mean in the scheme of life? Have I achieved something who's going to know about it? And it's going to be no new with the fact that all of your micro joys during the day your glimmers no one's going to know about except for you. Does that make them any less relevant or full? Because it's not an Instagram moment or whatever. So I mean, that's kind of what I tried to do it on my Instagram too. I'm like, here's here's the highlights. I like here are the annoyances to love that. There has to be some like real in between. Yeah, I love that so much. I love like my husband did get stuck dragging the beach bags to the beach today. And I kind of found a little bit of humor in that. While my eyes were dripping from some kind of bizarre allergy situation. Anyway,
Kimber Tiernan 54:49
to talk oh my god, me too, so much. Let me close your records. We'd like to thank the Masters teachers and loved ones for their love and compassion. We'd like to thank the Lord To the Akashic records for their point of view, I would like to thank the Holy Spirit of light for all knowledge and healing the records are now closed Amen The records are now closed Amen I am so happy we got to connect
Sarah Milken 55:18
Hey peeps, it's me again. I listened to this episode, this mini bonus episode with intuitive healer and Akashic Records reader, Kimber Tiernan. I know that when I listened to a long episode, I'm like, oh my god, I love that, that I can't even fucking remember the specifics. This is why I come back and do a golden nugget summary. In this mini sowed, we dug deep with our golden shovels into my Akashic records, connected with my spirit guides. And let's just say I love that golden nugget. Number one, what are the Akashic records? I've talked about this before in Episode 36. Go and listen to that one for all the details. But for quick reference, the Akashic records can be thought of as a dimension of consciousness that contains everything that has happened in your life that is happening and possibly could happen in the future. This is a living library with all of our probable timelines based on our frequency and trajectory. This means that outcomes are always subject to change based on our current efforts. I had Kimber open my records a while back, like I said, Episode 36. And you can see how they differed from then till now. Golden Nugget number two, being authentic pays off. I never thought that being totally authentic. With no mouth filter could help me get to this point in my life. I mean, Instagram husband, my parents, they all know about my lack of having a filter, but who knew that being so authentic in a platform like Instagram, and my podcast, would resonate so much with people and people would connect with the relatability factor. The reading with camber emphasize that my ability to show up as who I am, for better or for worse, unapologetically is creating an example for others to do the same in their lives. Golden Nugget number three, something can feel really fucking hard and still be the right thing. Of course, I knew going to Hawaii with my family so close to my live event. And after teen son's high school graduation, which was so emotional wouldn't be easy. But when I decided to throw the event, I knew it was a crucial step on my midlife journey, it was down deep, I could feel it, I decided that I was going to just do this and not look back, I was gonna go to Hawaii and do what I wanted to do with my family. And I was going to also have the event which I'd never done before a week later, which meant holding myself accountable all the way through the family vacation, while still being present for my family. And for myself. Of course, it crossed my mind that now I had this amazing fucking excuse to cancel the event. Oops, so sorry, I didn't know we were gonna go to Hawaii last minute. And so now I can't do the live of event that feels so fucking scary and new anyway. But I knew deep down that I couldn't do that. I just couldn't do that to myself and to other people. Like I just knew it was the right thing. To continue on with the event I couldn't run away from the thing i was scared of pushing myself through this experience gave me the self confidence to take even more steps in my life. And it all centers around holding myself accountable no matter what the circumstances are being fucking scared and doing it anyway. Are there things in your life that you're scared of that you're really hoping that you can push yourself forward? And if there are, I hope that you follow through on them. If you need some extra encouragement, you know, you can always DM me, Golden Nugget number four, equal exchange of energy, hashtag money. Okay, this is a big one for me. I've never asked my audience in two and a half years for money. Podcasts are free content. Instagram is free content. So I've never had to ask anyone for money. So this conversation with Kimber helped me to embrace a new perspective on that and see that money is an equal energy exchange, I'm now able to approach the idea of charging money with a significantly different awareness of a being an exchange of energy, where both parties are offering something for the information being given. It's important for me to include you guys in all of these thought processes and behind the scenes moments and feelings. So that if you're feeling these things, too, you can be like, Oh my god, Sarah felt that way. And look how she got through it. Because we're all going through. Very similar shit. It might look a little bit different, but it's all similar at the base. Yes, you can really do that hard thing. Yes, you can be nervous. And yes, you can do it anyway. Yes, you can ask for money. And yes, it's all an exchange of energy. Okay you guys do bold is dripping off these nuggets rabbit use it. There are several things you can do first fucking subscribe to the podcast don't just get them one off when you subscribe it helps the podcast grow. Second, share it with some midlife friends who'd like midlife ship and third, write an apple review. writing reviews is really fucking annoying. It's an extra step in your day, but guess what? It really helps the podcast grow. You think your little review won't matter but it does. If you want to show and everyone said my clap doesn't matter. There will be no clapping you all matter. DM me, you know I always respond. Oh, and of course, follow my instagram at the flexible neurotics DA Talk soon.