Find Your Personal Essence & Maybe A Silk Robe

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Hot Takes from my Interview with Jen Szpigiel of

Becoming Iconic Inc.

Hi, good peeps. I’ve got my golden shit shovel and I’m ready to dig into my amazing conversation with Jen Szpigiel. 

Jen is a Leadership expert, mother, serial entrepreneur, and a top rated life, business and brand stylist. We talked all about how she is helping women create iconic female platforms, businesses, and lives. She is also the host of the Becoming Iconic podcast…and did I mention that she has decades of marketing experience? 
Her most recent offering is her own signature mastermind program called Essence, where she helps women find their true power and potential.
Jen is a powerhouse. Our conversation was inspiring for me and it really gave me so much creative fuel for how I can grow my own vision of my midlife remix. 

Here are my favorite hot takes from our interview

We have to listen to our inner voice

Jen opened up and shared some Golden Nuggets about her own struggle to listen to herself and how everything began to change once she did.

“What happened for me, and what I believe happens to a lot of women, is when we're not in tune with ourselves, we're looking outside of ourselves for validation. We’re looking for our little ideas of success, and we're grasping at that. So we don't hear the whispers. One of my, if we can call it that, regrets is not listening to my inner voice, not hearing myself, not asking myself questions, not hearing the whispers and the guidance, and just being so quick to make decisions. And I was molding to everybody around me constantly. It was like shapeshifting constantly.”

Our struggles can be our greatest teachers

“I kept asking the question like, “Why do these things keep happening to me? What am I doing? What am I attracting?” And it was just one life circumstance after another. And there became a point in my life where there was an evolution where I started to realize that all of these things were my greatest teachers. I started to look at the hard or difficult situations or relationships in my life, and started to frame them as, “What am I learning? What is this teaching me right now?” So it was when I started really standing in my power and deciding, “I'm going to take the reins of my life and I'm going to stop thinking, ‘why is this happening to me?’ and say ‘why is this happening for me?’”

Women in midlife have a sense of confidence that is special and unique

“Mid aged women, we have something really special that other women don't have yet. It's not a “better than” it's just, we have experience. When I was in my 20s, growing to multiple six figures and 30s, holding the multiple six figures and now growing a second business that's built into that. I didn't always have the experience. I had the grit. I had the willingness. I had the work ethic. I had the vision. I had the leadership. But I didn't always have experience. Now, I pair all of that with experience and something really beautiful starts to unfold where it's this confidence, this peaceful, beautiful confidence that I believe is the sexiest part of any woman, regardless of her shape, size, color, background, wealth. When you see a woman come into a room, and she's rolling her shoulders back and peacefully competent, not needing to prove anything to anybody, that is the most alluring seductive woman in the room and I am drawn to her.”

 
 

The power of a silk robe to make you feel sexy and powerful

“It started with putting on a silk robe. I mean, it's literally that simple. In the morning, I thought what would make me feel really feminine? What would make me feel really beautiful from the time I woke up without even looking in the mirror the way my hair looks? That was the feeling of silk on my body. And so I bought myself a silk robe. It took me a while actually to find one. I had an image of that woman and I just became her. And then I thought okay, I feel really beautiful and feminine in this robe. What if I lit a candle and extended my morning into not having to do anything? What if I actually built a relationship with myself and a romantic relationship with myself. What I mean by that is, it’s not sexual, it's actually asking myself questions like, “What do you like?”, “What makes you feel good?”, “What sparks something in you?”, “What would today be if it was a perfect day to do whatever you wanted to do?”, “What would that look like and what would that feel like?” And those questions started to be like almost dating myself and getting to know myself and that's what's grounded me and anchored me into my leadership now.”

Tapping into your essence to find your superpower

What is “essence”? According to Jen,

“Essence is a feeling. That's how I can best describe it.  And your superpower will stem from that. We all have superpower. And this is the thing, as women, we're so accustomed to watching how Dr. Sarah is doing something or Jen's doing something, and we're looking outside of ourselves constantly for the evidence, when you are the evidence in your own life. Even if right now you're standing up with your back kind of hunched over because you're still not feeling 100% certain. It's by standing up and making that first action towards you and what you want to have in your life and allowing that in, that's what creates a superpower. The superpower is simply getting out of your own way. Women who look and feel powerful are the women who know that life and manifesting is for us and we can have anything we desire. That's the truth. And everything we're living in right now has been manifested, good or not so good. So it's allowing that essence, that feeling, that sturdiness, that knowing to then start folding out into the world. And then all of a sudden, you start to see the evidence coming back at you. It's like a vortex just like, whoa, all of a sudden, you have money, miracles, I mean, it started happening for me.”

I hope this episode helps you to feel like the powerful, magical, and courageous woman that you are. Your midlife remix awaits. Warning: it’s sexy. 

Enjoying these Hot Takes? Listen to Episode 32: Find Your Personal Essence & Maybe A Silk Robe

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